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How to Get People to Do Things for You

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How to Get People to Do Things for You

By Valerie

They say women have some kind of inbuilt charm that makes people want to do things for them, but the trick behind getting people to do things for you is psychological and requires a certain amount of self-investment. To achieve this you need to: 

1. Smile more often

This would require you to invest in your toothbrush and toothpaste. Smiling makes you seem more approachable and less gloomy. When you smile people around you tend to smile in response, which triggers the release of endorphins that make people feel better. Now do the maths: if people feel better when they are around you, they’d automatically become attracted to you. People won’t want to do things for you if they don’t feel any sense of attraction towards you.

2. Be grateful

When someone does something for you, show gratitude no matter how little the favor might be. It’s actually a turn off for most people whenever they do something for someone and they don’t even get as little as a “thank you”. A lot of people have grown entitled lately to the point that they no longer see people’s efforts towards them as a favor but as their right. They even go as far as downplaying others’ efforts by stating those people could have done more, or how they don’t like what has been done for them. The fact that someone did something for you means that
  1. The person thought of you
  2. The person made time out of their schedule specifically for you
  3. The person knows that he or she isn’t obliged to do anything for you but still went ahead to do so
So basically, people sacrifice their time, energy, and (sometimes) money to get things done for you. You showing that you appreciate their efforts would only make them want to do more for you.

3. Establish a relationship outside your needs

My mother always says, “If you want to use somebody, make sure to treat them well.” It’s a bad habit to only show up whenever you require a favor (I’m pretty sure many of you establish this same relationship with God. You only pray when it’s exam period, or you need money, or you’re facing a crisis). If you have a habit of only showing up when you’re in need, people would tag you with the crisis that draws you to them and would (in some cases) avoid you. Always make it a habit to check up on people around you and stay in touch.

4. Be present and interested

When dealing with people, try as much as possible to not be self-centered in your conversations. Try to know more about the person and ask questions to show that you’re interested in them. Also, maintain eye contact and avoid engaging your phone while discussing with them as it would imply that you’re uninterested. Be able to bring them back to the subject when they derail and don’t interrupt them when talking. This would show that you’re actually listening. Also, be warm and welcoming.

The Takeaway

Following these four steps would automatically make you closer to people as it would create a safe and positive space for them, hence making them happy to do things for you because they’d feel like they matter to you and their efforts aren’t wasted. In summary, getting people to do things for you is not an inbuilt thing. It’s actually charisma. People are much more likely to do things for you if they are treated well and you are nice to them.

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Valerie Ihenachor|Thephotonaut studios

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Valerie
Valerie Ihenachor is a young female writer. She’s a young Nigerian creative that also indulges in photography. She loves to write fictional stories, poems and sometimes articles. She spends her time watching anime, movies and listening to music. She also has interests in comedy and astrology. Valerie is a lover of animals and nature. She loves to spend her time alone in her space listening to music. Valerie Is currently pursuing her life ambitions

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