Hey Woman, You Can Handle Your Emotions

2022-08-31T08:00:29+00:00

By Becky

Our emotions are a vital and inseparable part of us, but understanding and mastering them will help us to become the best version of ourselves, especially when we are in a relationship.When you know that you cannot control someone else’s actions towards you, but you can control your own response to theirs, then you are on your way to learning how to handle your emotions.Not knowing how to handle your emotions can lead to hasty and careless decisions about your life and future. It can also cause you to make wrong relationship choices.As a woman, your reactions to events or others’ actions can result in disgust, hatred, sadness, anger, fear of abandonment, withdrawal, poor self-care, anxiety, irritability, paranoia, depression and suicidal thoughts.As much as these emotional expressions may be caused by physical, hormonal, or psychological changes, they can be understood and managed effectively. This is why Winston Churchill said, “You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.”

How Can You Handle Your Emotions?

1. Understand Yourself

Understanding yourself will help you better handle your emotions. It entails knowing and understanding your temperament, personality, love languages and upbringing in relation to how your environment and hormones work.You need to pay attention to what happens with your emotions during your menstrual period or ovulation. This will help you control some emotional displays that tend to occur during these periods.

Three women lying side by side showing no emotions

Understanding yourself will help you better handle your emotions

2. Understand Others

Everybody has a unique personality, upbringing, background and exposure. There is something that distinguishes you from another person.

This is why you cannot control someone’s actions towards you, but you can definitely control your reactions to their actions. You need to understand and apply this whenever your emotions want to get the better of you.You can achieve this when you understand that people have different temperaments as well as diverse genetic and hormonal makeups. Understanding this will help you know the right responses to the emotional reactions of others.

3. Concentrate on your Lane

Things will happen around you and you will have different emotional reactions to them. You need to remember that human beings are all on a journey and each person’s journey is different. While some are running on the fast track, some are running the 800-metre relay.So, if you get upset when a 100-metre sprinter gets to her finish line while forgetting that you are still on your 400-metre relay, you are only setting yourself up for unnecessary heartache.You need to be calm, work on and develop yourself, and while at it, keep affecting lives positively. You will be fulfilling your purpose that way.

4. Find Like-minded People for Encouragement and Partnership

The truth is that you will need encouragement at some point in life. So, you will need trusted people to help you work through it.Having a mentor is good, but not all mentors are suitable for you. You need to look for those whose purpose aligns with yours or who have been on a similar journey as yours. They will understand the areas where you need to grow and the things you need to do. You can also have such people as friends, colleagues and confidantes.

5. Be Aware of How You Feel

When you are experiencing a negative emotion, such as anger or despondency, don’t try to hide it from yourself.You can’t afford to deceive yourself.You need to identify that you are feeling off and then try to find out why you are feeling that way. Is there something, an event or a statement, that has triggered that emotion? Once you can pinpoint the reason for the feelings, speak to your inner self and work on handling it.You can also find something to get you distracted from that moment, like reading or making some positive declarations.

Conclusion

You need to understand that you are an emotional being and it is okay to have these emotions, whether positive or negative. You only need to understand them and learn how to handle them properly. Becky Olorunpomi is a certified relationship counsellor and enthusiast, an author, and a speaker. Her two books Being Single: Challenges and Way Out and Dear Singles are both online (Amazon Kindle and okadabooks.com) and in hardcopy.