By Blogger 2 This Thing Called Friendship
By Blogger 2
1. Your friend isn’t your “yes man”
Most people, especially ladies, expect their friends to agree with whatever they say and massage their egos. They don’t like it when their friends call them out on their wrongdoings.2. Your friend isn’t your sex partner
In a generation driven by lust, “just friends” is now a valid reason to be worried. There is a certain intimacy that comes with sex and shouldn’t be brought into friendship if you’re not married or in a serious relationship with your “friend”. Sex with your friends can ruin the dynamics of the relationship.3. Friendship is better than romance
“Marry your best friend” is a saying that has a lot of meaning to it. Romance will die. Friendship lasts far longer.Having a friend is having a solid individual in your life that can show up for you and support you in the most critical times. A friend can be a safe space in times of chaos. Friendship is pure and outlives romance.4. Acquaintance and friends
Most of the time we mix up these two a lot. But the thing is we can make friends in less than 24 hours and be acquainted with someone for years. Time doesn’t make you friends, because you are close to someone by proximity or location doesn’t make you friends with them. They are people that you know. What makes you friends with them is how well you know each other mutually. People can just know you as a classmate or colleague and call you a friend (that’s wrong) but outside the classroom and workplace how well do they know you?5. It takes effort to stay friends
No one has ever mentioned it but it takes a lot of mental and personal effort to stay connected with your friends. Even with all the social media platforms, we still need to make personal efforts to stay connected with our friends.Once in a while, call them or engage them in long conversations. Ask them questions about their personal lives and interests, what they like and what they are currently doing.Stay involved in their lives. Visit them once in a while, and show up for them. Don’t just show up when you need something – that’s rude.6. Treat them well
Not revealing your friend’s secrets or confidential information when you’re on bad terms is a good attribute.You should also pay close attention to how your actions and decisions affect them. That way, you can avoid ugly situations, which shows how much you care about them.7. Birthdays
Most people don’t like to admit it (especially men) but people really care about their birthdays. Even as little as remembering and wishing them a happy birthday makes them feel special.Now imagine doing something little for them. Make them feel loved.8. Following Through
It’s okay to give space when romance between friends doesn’t work out. Give it time and try reaching out after a while. Not for another shot at romance but at working on your friendship. Show them that you value the bond of friendship that you share**
Valerie Ihenachor|Thephotonaut studiosDiscover more from Feminine Digest
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