The Love Languages (4)- Quality Time

2020-09-29T10:10:17+00:00

By Virtue Digest

Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention. For instance, sitting on the couch with T.V off, looking at each other and avoiding every from of distraction. The love language might be the easiest to understand, but it can also be one of the easiest to misinterpret. In our previous posts, we have explained some love languages. They are, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts.Also, we gave some tips on how to communicate such love language to your partner. However, if you are yet to discover your one of your partner’s love languages, you should check them out. Today, we’d discuss another love language – Quality Time.Every couple needs quality time together in order for the relationship to grow and develop. But, what happens when one partner’s love language is quality time? How does the time spent together impact the relationship especially when hectic lives and busy jobs get in the way?Unfortunately, technology has made quality time with our partners scarce. Even when we are together, we are somewhere else usually in cyberspace or deep in our own thoughts. It should be noted that, being together in same place while doing something else does not always constitute quality time no matter how long you sit with them.The central aspect of quality time is togetherness and for someone whose love language is quality time, lack of connectedness can leave them feeling empty and lonely. It is more than just time, it is attention. Here are some tell-tale signs that you speak this love language – Quality time:

You are an excellent listener.
You’re not susceptible to distractions.
You try to make time for loved ones even if you are not physically there.
You enjoy sharing new experiences with others.
You’re one who thinks most activities are more fun with others involved.

How Do You Speak the Love Language – Quality Time?

Always try to make eye contact. It’s the gateway to loving your partner.
Learn to be an active listener.
Put away anything related to technology. A quality time person does not want you to share the moment attending to mails or other things on your gadgets.
It is not about the time, it is about the quality of the time you have spent with your partner.
Don’t complain about the time spent together.

Finally, quality time is a powerful emotional communicator of love. Just as one medicine does not cure all disease, one language does not communicate emotionally to all people.

Note:

If your partner says, “You don’t ever have time for me. We used to do things together. Now, you are always too busy or too tired,” it is a sign that their primary love language is Quality Time!