To think that anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage is normal and okay. However, not being able to control the anger is abnormal. Every day, people get you angry and frustrated especially when you are in traffic or when you are having an important discussion. So, how do you tame your anger? Do you shout, yell or just walk away?
Understanding that anger is caused by both external and internal events can help you overcome your anger. Your anger could be caused by brooding about personal problems, and memories of enraging events can also trigger angry feelings. It is okay to express your anger, but do you do that aggressively? Here are some tips to manage and control your anger:
Some simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help you calm down angry feelings. Then, repeat the phrases “relax, calm down or take it easy.”
Re-orientate Your Thinking
Most times, angry people tend to curse, swear or speak in highly abusive terms that show their inner thoughts. When you are angry, your thinking is dramatic. So try to re-orientate it to more rational ones. You could tell yourself, it’s not this bad. It is annoying, but it is understandable.
Solve the Problem
Sometimes, your anger is caused by a particular problem in your life. Try to focus on solving and handling the problem. Don’t shy away from it else, you’d keep fighting the issue.
Don’t just communicate your feelings, but communicate it in a way that you and the surrounding people will understand. Angry people tend to jump to conclusion and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate.
Most times, silly humour helps to calm the situation in a number of ways. Therefore, using those words will help you to handle the situation. It serves as a refusal to take yourself too serious because anger is a serious emotion.
Change Your Environment
Your immediate environment can cause or add to the irritation and fury. So, give yourself a break and make sure you have some “me-time.”
It should be noted that anger is a natural way to respond to threats, but you can overcome it by following the above stated tips. Getting angry won’t make you feel better, you’d only feel worse.
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