I want to start by telling you just exactly what my mother told me: No man is worth your tears.

The problem is when it comes to matters of the heart, once is not enough to tell yourself the things that help you stop sulking and crying. The thing about relationships ending is that they make you ask questions, and the problem with those questions is that there is hardly ever an answer, and, just like grief, heartbreak has stages. I’m not here to tell you about the stages because, unlike academic work, there’s no shame in repeating these stages.
There are ways to ensure that you never think of that man and cry again, the methods I’m about to tell you are assured. The process may be slow, but no worries, as a three-time champion myself, they are guaranteed. These are the things you must do:
1. Delete all pictures. I know, it is hard- but for something to have never existed, there must be no evidence. This is the first step and this is the first step to rid your heart of memories, but start with your camera roll. This is a sure guarantee to ensure that there is nothing to look at and cry.
2. This second step also has to do with destroying evidence, what you’re going to do is to get rid of gifts, not the ones that cost money oh, the ones that are drenched in thoughtfulness, those are the ones that hurt more. For example, a shirt he gave you to wear when you sleep, a painting that you guys did, a neck piece trash them. It may seem harsh, but you’re not going to marry and ex, are you?
3. Delete the number. Do it. I know that you may be tempted to fall into friendship immediately after, but no my love, its too soon. There’s no use of having his number, and still having him on social media, this makes is way too easy for you to keep living in the past. There is no temptation to text him this way.
4. Cry. Cry as many times as you need to, sometimes it may feel like it is the end of the world, and other times everything feels normal, but at all times lean into your emotions, there is no rush and you do not have to act like you’re not hurt. The greatest enemy of things like this is deceit, please do not deceive yourself.
5. Pray, I know it sounds weird but, we do not have a saviour that does not understand our pains, struggles and temptations. God cares, and he wants you whole, not broken. Talk to him, write to him, scream if you wish, but ensure you do not act tough with him. He’s close to you and sees all.
6. Lastly, take your time. There is no medal for who gets over the other person the fastest, do not rush into another relationship in the blink of an eye. All of the things that I have recommended you do will be hard, and you may find yourself unfollowing, then following, deleting and saving numbers/ pictures again, but keep doing them. One day he will not matter as much, and you will be thankful for the bullet you missed, but right now, there is no judgment, take all of the time you need and, while you’re at it remember that you are more than enough.