African lady sitting with one of her male friends and looking into a book

How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship with Your Male Friends

2023-07-29T15:24:12+00:00

By Valerie

There is a saying that a male-to-female relationship cannot be completely platonic because there would be a form of attraction. I completely agree and if your male counterparts don’t even feel attracted to you in any form then there’s a problem. As time goes on our male friends would like to leave the “friend zone” and want something more than friends, mostly something sexual. The truth is, there’s nothing wrong in wanting sex, but that form of intimacy is not for everyone or every friendship.There must be moderation in everything, a balance so there won’t be problems. Sexual affairs can ruin relationships and, in my opinion, staying friends is better than being lovers. True friendship has an underrated intimacy that’s pure, but sex pollutes that intimacy because most times it’s lust and not love. Unfortunately, we live in a society and generation where lust prevails. Lust turns people into liars, deceivers, and manipulators. Their actions towards others are based on the craving to get satisfaction.As human beings, we were naturally hardwired to be sexual beings but at the same time, we have the ability to override our sexual desires. A man who gives in to his desires would always be a slave to himself. In conclusion, it is very much possible for a male and female to be “just friends” and here is how:

1. Boundaries

Be clear on what is or isn’t okay for you. If you feel that you’re uncomfortable with visiting your male friend alone at his place, make it clear to him. If you feel that you don’t want to be touched sexually or engage in any sexual acts, make it clear to him. The thing is that sometimes your male friends might get offended by this, but whoever does will be fine eventually, and such a fellow is no gentleman.

2. Be strict with your boundaries

Don’t bend your rules. If you bend it once it will be bent twice, and soon you’d be bent over regularly because he would take it that you’re not serious with your boundaries.

3. Self-discipline and restraint:

Sometimes it’s not just them that gets attracted. Sometimes it would be you. But before you act on your feelings/desires, ask yourself this question: “Is it worth it?”These 3 things can help maintain healthy friendships between males and females. It’s not everything that needs romance.

Valerie Ihenachor|Thephotonaut studios

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Valerie Ihenachor is a young female writer. She’s a young Nigerian creative that also indulges in photography. She loves to write fictional stories, poems and sometimes articles. She spends her time watching anime, movies and listening to music. She also has interests in comedy and astrology. Valerie is a lover of animals and nature. She loves to spend her time alone in her space listening to music. Valerie Is currently pursuing her life ambitions