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How To Effectively Communicate in Romantic Relationships

2023-07-06T01:36:25+00:00

By Ev

Are you an expert? Ehn, yes I am, but if I am not, and, so then what? Don’t get too defensive shaaa – I have tea, the kind with plenty Milo, if you’re into all that.The thing is, this has to be our secret because if the men find out things are going to be tougherrrr. Here’s the thing, Queens, the tip is summarized in one word: ‘empathy’. You want your man, your man, your mannnnn to know how a thing he did made you feel. I know that you’re angry and you want to lash out but men are like babies. Saying ‘NO’ without a ‘WHY’ to them is like talking to a brick. Useless.Don’t worry I have examples:I want you to do (what you want), it makes me feel valued. As opposed to: You never do (what you want), you don’t value me.Another example: I need you to (what you need), it makes me happy. As opposed to: You don’t meet my needs.Lastly: I feel loved when you (what you like being done). As opposed to: I don’t feel loved.Are we on the same page? The goal is to create empathy and sympathy, and not to throw accusations. I know you agree with me that no man who truly loves you would want to see you hurt.These are some of the things to take note of when communicating with your Oga:

Go into all conversations knowing what you expect from them and be willing to listen.
Talk with kindness at all times. Remember that words pierce deep and cannot be taken back.
‘Never’ and ‘always’ are tools for destruction and are most likely untrue. Don’t use them.
Remember that breaks are allowed, and not all conversations must finish when they start.
Don’t raise your voice. Are you a bus conductor??
Focus on what and how the actions made you feel. The chances you’ll be more honest are higher.
Lastly, do not forget that everyone makes mistakes (inserts drumrolls)

The main koko of my story is that how you feel is important, and should be important to your partner, say it. The secret ingredient to this communication thing (don’t tell them I told you oh) is the “Sandwich method”. Like this: “My Oga, you’re so good at A & B – I love it when you do it. Hm, but today it’s like you were carried away oh, thank you for not forgetting.”This way, you’ve let him know, without accusing, that something you enjoy him doing he did not do this time.When you try it and it works, send me my coins. You’re welcome.

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